Perception of Loneliness

They asked Andrei Tarkovsky "What would you like to tell young people?". He answered “I think I would like to say only that they should learn to be alone and try to spend as much time as possible by themselves. I think one of the faults of young people today is that they try to come together around events that are noisy, almost aggressive at times. This desire to be together in order to not feel alone is an unfortunate symptom, in my opinion. Every person needs to learn from childhood how to spend time with oneself. That doesn’t mean he should be lonely, but that he shouldn’t grow bored with himself because people who grow bored in their own company seem to be in danger, from a self-esteem point of view.” When we looked at it from this aspect, we can see that loneliness can be beneficial and it can gain favor to the creative process, too. How are the alone seem by other people? They are strangers to the place where they go. When they go a cafe or restaurant, it is expected from them that they eat and go as immediate as possible because there is no single-seater table, as people want to pay attention crowded groups, not alone people. Let me tell my story about that event that happens every time. When I go to a cafe for drinking coffee because there is no single-seater table I sit a four-person table, and the questions begin to come immediately: “Excuse me, is this chair available?”, “Can I take this chair?”, “Is there anybody who will come?”, “Are you alone?”. They circle like vultures. Even though this event actually seems like a little event, it so discomfortable that sometimes I want to go away from there. While people find the alone strange, they respond to the noisy crowded normally. Whereas they do not know the feeling of freedom which being alone gives. Finally, Pythagoras said that “A person who cannot be alone by himself cannot coalesce with the others, too”